Stress – Mind, Body or Emotions?
By Jacob Eapen
High levels of stress have become synonymous with our busy, active
everyday lifestyles. We recognize its symptoms — the tension,
headaches, and other aches and pains. When ignored, stress can
lead to high blood pressure, ulcers, heart problems and many
other serious health problems. Yet many people do not recognize
other common symptoms of stress — lack of sleep, fatigue,
persistent low level anxiety. They will often attribute it to an
overactive mind that just won’t shut down at night to let them
fall asleep.
Stress affects each individual in a different way. Some seem to
perform best under moderate to high stress levels, while others
cannot tolerate much stress at all. Even those who perform well
under stress can reach a breaking point. In order to take
appropriate measures to counter the effects of stress we need a
good understanding of the root cause of stress.
Stress is the body’s response to experiences that do not match our
expectations. Basically we have run into something unfamiliar…
something other than what we expected. So what are expectations?
Expectations are based on how we think and feel.
Our feelings and emotions are very much tied to memory and
learning, which then influence the expectations we place on
all our experiences. Stress then has very much to do with how we
think and feel.
There are many facets to our life — work, family, personal
relationships, money, health, social, sexuality, spirituality
and so on. Early in life we are taught the “rules”… what is
expected of us, and what we can expect of life. Rightly or
wrongly, for the most part many of us accept these rules without
giving them a whole lot of thought. Many of these rules were
“drilled” into us and became part of our memories. We also have
our own memories from what we have learned from past
experiences. All of these influence how we think — both
consciously and unconsciously.
To understand how we feel, we need to look at the body and how it
is hard-wired to respond to our feelings and emotions. Feelings
and emotions basically give us the ability to feel, which
is another way to determine what is going on in our environment.
For example, the uneasy sensation we experience in the gut when
walking down the street and being confronted by a large dog,
whether the danger is real or imagined. Feelings and emotions
are also the types of sensations we experience when we are
angry, or sad, or when we feel happy or appreciated. Scientists
have discovered that the brain produces a certain type of
hormone called neuropeptides, and there is a different
neuropeptide for each type of feeling or emotion we experience.
They also found that there are receptor sites at the cell level
throughout the body and the brain that respond to specific
neuropeptides, and these responses are what we experience as
feelings and emotions. Because of this hard-wiring, our first
response to any experience is almost always emotional.
So how do our thoughts, feelings, emotions and body work together
to respond to what we encounter daily? Our five senses — sight,
smell, hearing, taste and touch provide sensory inputs to the
brain so it can determine what’s going on in the physical
surroundings — how pleasant, or how hostile it is. There is a
part of the brain that processes feelings and emotions, and when
the sensory inputs reach it, it accesses memories and evaluates
the experience — all in a split second.
When an experience matches the parameters of our expectations or
falls outside those parameters, the brain releases appropriate
neuropeptides through the blood stream to the various parts of
the body. The receptors at each cell in the body detect the
appropriate neuropeptide and respond by either stimulating or
inhibiting cell function. So for example, if two people walked
down the street and were confronted by a large dog, each person
may experience two completely different neuropeptides at the
cell level. One person’s response may be tempered by memories of
past experiences with large dogs that were benign, whereas the
other person may be completely unfamiliar with large dogs or has
had some unpleasant past experiences which may trigger a
different neuropeptide that creates a fight-or-flight response.
The fight-or-flight response increases heart rate and blood
pressure and redirects more oxygen and blood sugar to the
muscles so they can prepare to run faster or fight harder, while
reducing the activity of other organs that are not critical to
this function — such as digestive organs.
Many of our daily life experiences do not elicit dramatic responses
of fight-or-flight, but do vary depending on the expectations we
place on our experiences. It seems that life today is so much
more hectic than it was even two or three decades ago, and there
is tremendous change all around us. In any kind of human
interaction whether it is in the workplace, at home, in personal
relationships or elsewhere, we are always encountering new or
different points of view — much different from our own. In a
split second we are consciously or unconsciously comparing what
we are experiencing to what we consider “familiar” or even
“desirable”. If the results are different, it triggers an
instant emotional response and the muscles in the body respond
by tensing up. The mind, the part of the brain that thinks,
reasons and creates strategies to deal with the world around us,
often does not have a chance to intervene and assess the
situation rationally before the emotional response occurs. If we
can train ourselves to take a deep breath before responding to
any new situation it allows enough time for the mind to
intervene and resolve the situation in a rational manner, and we
are then able to relax the tense muscles. But how often does
this happen with each experience we have daily?
As mentioned previously all our feelings and emotions are tied to
memory and learning — so we learn to avoid repeating undesirable
or even potentially dangerous experiences. And, we learn to seek
out those that are pleasant and enjoyable. Any memories with
unresolved feelings and emotions attached to them will unduly
influence how we think; and therefore affect all subsequent
experiences. Unfortunately, many of us do not fully understand
this link between our mind, feelings and emotions, and the
physical body; and how they are all connected in a “feedback
loop” of information. Least of all we really do not understand
the effect of feelings and emotions on the physical body. All
too often we are so uncomfortable with our own feelings and
emotions that we do not know what to do with them; instead we
choose to bury them.
When we have difficulty releasing the bodily tension, and the body
and mind are caught in a constant state of alert, it affects our
ability to sleep, diminishes our ability to operate at peak
efficiency and eventually leads to burnout. The organs and
tissues of the body are also robbed of much needed nutrients,
vitamins and regulatory signals from the brain to keep them
functioning at a healthy level.
Recent medical studies have shown that excess stress is very toxic
to the body, and is linked to many of our current chronic
disease processes: asthma, allergies, headaches, high blood
pressure, heart disease, and is also known to weaken the immune
system. A weakened immune system leaves us open to all kinds of
infections and diseases.
A holistic approach to dealing with stress has to include not only
our physical body, but also our feelings and emotions and our
mind. Eating healthy food, drinking clean water, daily exercise,
taking time to rest and relax, getting adequate sleep are all
important. But it is also essential to find ways to diffuse
unresolved feelings and emotions, and develop flexibility in our
thinking so we can deal with the unfamiliar and the unexpected
that we encounter in our daily life.
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About The Author:
Jacob Eapen is author of the book Mirror Mirror – Tell
Me Who I Am (www.MirrorMirrorBook.com)
and creator of the Diffusion CD (www.DiffusionCD.com).
He is also the creator of the Relevance in Everyday Living
programs (www.fractalcomm.ca).